God’s Values and Design for Sex, Sexuality & Relationships

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God’s Values and Design for Sex, Sexuality & Relationships

There is a big discussion occurring in Australia about the redefining of the definition of marriage. Over the next few issues of the Messenger I want to share with you a biblical Christian view on God’s values and design for sex, sexuality and relationships. I believe it is important that Christians know what we believe about sex, sexuality and relationships, but more importantly I believe we should also know the why or the basis of what we believe.

So what is our underlying premise? What premise do people who do not believe in God or who do not believe that God has revealed his design or purpose for humanity in the bible use? Are we speaking different languages and therefore not understanding each other?

As Christians we have to avoid using simplistic explanations like  “because the bible says so” or quoting a few verses from the bible to prove our point. If we are honest, quoting verses from the bible to someone who might not accept the Bible as a source of God’s design and purpose for humanity, is not necessarily going to convince them of your position. As Christians we have to not only know what we believe, but we have to learn to share it in a way with people who are Christians and people who are not, that explains what we believe without judgment and accusation. (N.B. Sometimes sharing your view in the best way possible way still results in people reacting against you, as they consider that holding an opposing view means you are narrow minded and are judgmental)

So where do we get our beliefs from?
As Christians there are two primary sources that we can draw from to determine what our values and design for sexuality and relationships are.
We can approach it from:
A Human View or A Biblical Christian View

The Human View
As Christians we live in a country where the majority of people are what could be described as “secular”  i.e. they either:
a) don’t believe in God or are skeptical and uncertain about him.
or
b) They believe in a God, but are uncertain about who he is, which God is teh right God and what place he should have in their life.

The secular human view is just that, it sees things from Human perspective. It does not take into a spiritual reality. Its sees humans as the source of all wisdom. In the secular human view, each person decides what is right and what is wrong according to their conscience and values. It does not consider or accept an objective set of values or design imposed or decided by an objective “God.” Who created and sustains everything.  What Christians call Gods design, will or purpose.
The Biblical Christian worldview
The Biblical Christian World view has as its premise:

  • That God is real and that, who He is and what He thinks and values does not change.
  • That God has revealed Himself to humans and ultimately revealed who he is through His Son Jesus Christ.
  • That God revealed His values and design to humans who he inspired to write down and passed that on.(The Bible.)
  • That humans are called to align themselves with God’s revealed design and purpose and turn from their own design to His.


The Secular Human View vs God’s Revealed design.

This is where the tension lies. The underlying question is who decides what is right and wrong? Do humans or does God? As a Christian I believe God decides and has revealed his design for humans from beginning to end in the Bible. Of course there were things God said to people in the Bible days that were specifically relating to their context. God also revealed many universal principals for all humans to follow and obey. A part of this study is to look at what God has said about sex, sexuality and relationships that was universal not contextual.

We live at time where the secular human view of the world is influencing the way Christians approach making decisions about morality and ethics. The prevailing Secular Human view either does not believe in God or believes that if there is a God He hasn’t revealed defined values (or to be precise) hasn’t clearly revealed them to us so that we can follow them (or not.) So where do you draw your values, design and purpose about God, about being a human and being a Christian from? Do you draw it from the bible? Or do you draw it from your ideas, your friends, other Christians, or the culture we live in?

Drawing from the Bible.
The basic premise of the Biblical Christian view is that God is the creator and sustainer and therefore determines how humans should operate. Christians base our ideas about God or ideas about sex, sexuality or relationships on what God has revealed in the bible. When it comes to considering God’s values and design for sex, sexuality and relationships our premise as Christian starts by asking, what has God revealed to us in the Bible?
Here are two simple questions for you to ask yourself.
1. Where are you drawing your ideas and opinions from?
2. Can you support what you believe from the bible?

In Part 2 of God’s Values and Design for Sexuality & Relationships we will answers the question: Does the Bible clearly identify God’s values and design for sexuality and relationships from beginning to end?

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